When I dress in sweatpants and a sweatshirt, I am treated differently than if I have makeup on and decent clothing.
I find that if I dress up more, people are more likely to…
- hold the doors open for me (I do not take offense to that, it’s a just a kind gesture)
- be polite
- smile and smile back
- give you a seat if you look like you have a lot of stuff
It’s just interesting that we preach that judging based on appearances is considered shallow or only something an uneducated person would do.
I consider myself educated, and I judge based on appearances.
And you do too to some extent, I’m sure.
Judging doesn’t always mean that it is a bad thing or I will feel negative about someone every time I judge.
It’s just an action to me, but many people take it with a negative connotation like: “She’s judging me again”.
The thing that I think we have to be careful to say is:
I judge based on appearances, but it is not everything I look for in a person to determine who they are.
I also judge their personality, whether they’d open a door for someone, give up their seat to an elderly, disabled or pregnant person, how they treat a cashier and so on.
I read somewhere that within 5-10 minutes, people judge rapidly if they will like a person, trust them or feel what is called “chemistry”; both with men and women.
So as enlightened as we’re trying to become, by ignoring appearances,we all judge in one way or another.