This doesn’t really feel like my home.

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– April 18, 2010Posted in: Thoughts

In Montreal I mean.

Just reading the tweets from Revanche about her moving for her new job and feeling homesick but trying to ignore it…

That’s the way I still feel sometimes — I don’t feel like this city is my home.

I don’t feel like I actually live here, which is silly, because I’ve been here for almost 2 years.

Some cities, you just don’t click with, I guess.. particularly if you KNOW it’s going to be temporary (less than 5 years).

Toronto feels much more like my home, since I’ve been there for the majority of my life.

I’m homesick for the city right now, at this instant.

The only thing that feels like home is being in this apartment with BF, but when he’s gone, it doesn’t feel like I belong here.

Maybe it’s a sign I should get out in the city and explore more, so I feel less like a touriste.

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I feel downright awkward sometimes.

As a dark ominous looking cloud settled over the city…

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Oh what I wouldn't do to be living in Paris right now. It is my favorite city in the world and fits like a glove. Please get out and explore more. It really is a beautiful place.

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I feel that way in my current town. I moved in last May and we're planning to renew the lease. The apartment itself is wonderful but the city around it? Devoid of soul

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I know it’s probably the people that make the city, but I can’t get into the groove of the city’s soul here.

I think it’s just a lack of memories associated with this city.

Elle

I totally know how you feel… I was born and raised in Toronto. I loved Toronto when I live there but I realize now that I took it for granted a lot of the time growing up. Right after I got married almost two years ago we moved to Seattle. I miss Toronto SOOOOO much!! No matter where we live, Toronto will always be home to me and no where else…

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Toronto is definitely my “home”. I know the TTC and the whole way the city is laid out so well, that it’s hard not to think otherwise.

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i think you just need to explore the city more and make it yours. even if you don't stay past the summer, go out and enjoy the summer months. it'll never be yours until you let it. if you keep thinking you're leaving, then it'll never be home. so regardless of whether or not it's permanent, jsut try to enjoy the city.
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It's funny DH and I both felt that way when we lived in the Silicon Valley (which I maintain is a soul-less place). When we moved to San Diego, my birthplace, I felt great, I loved it. But DH continued to feel like he was 'waiting for life to begin, just waiting. . .' That's a terrible state of affairs. So we moved back to France. I definitely feel foreign here, but not in that super-alienating way.

I'd love to visit Montreal though, I've heard great things.

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I think the thing is that we don’t have permanent jobs here. So it never feels like home, because we know we aren’t staying.

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If it makes you feel any better, I've lived in Las Vegas for almost 4 years and I'm married and going nowhere and this doesn't feel like home still. Maybe when I'm fifty?

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*laughing* Well I hope it gets better for you, if you are going to stay there permanently.

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I've lived in three other cities (for 4 months only – except for university in Waterloo) other than Toronto – Waterloo, Boston and Singapore. Even though I loved Boston and Singapore and exploring the two places, I took comfort in the fact that I would be returning to Toronto at the end of the four months.

Getting out helps a lot! Hope you feel better soon!
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Maybe if you get out there and meet more people? I think it's the people that make the place.

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It is definitely people that make the place. But even in Toronto, if I didn’t know anyone, I wouldn’t care. The city is my friend, as weird as that sounds.

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Exploring might help you feel more settled. Making more friends, too. Not having much family left, my friends are what make living here in England feel like home.

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The only thing, is that we might be leaving after summer.. so not to sound callous, but I don’t want to make a short friendship just for now, when I know it isn’t going to last past a couple of months.

I think part of it, is that I’m also somewhat not interested in making friends here. I don’t like just making friends for the sake of it, and I’m more of an organic — if it happens, it happens — sort of person.

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I feel the same way about Oshawa. When I moved to Ontario, we lived in Hamilton for a few months and that's where Mr. Man and I "came up" in our relationship. It's always felt very comfortable and home-y to me. It's a nasty, dirty city and a lot of people think everyone there is stupid or poor, but I love it. When we moved to Oshawa, apart from being away from our friends and family, I never settled into the town. It's a small town with a big-town attitude, there's nothing fun to do, and it just doesn't feel right. I miss being in Hamilton! (I don't think anyone's ever put those words together in a sentence before…)
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I know the feeling. The only difference is, for me, the city that didn't feel like home was my hometown. I was desperate to get out.

This doesn’t really feel like my home.

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