Comments on: Why the hell do guys have to pay for everything? :)

By: Monica_sun_pn

Monica_sun_pn — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 21:44:00 +0000

Most of the guys earn more money ,like my bf earns 4 times more than me! I can not afford going to expensive restaurants or expensive places for fun,but he always ask me to go for expensive things and he doesn’t pay my expenses! so if guys want to have fun they have to pay! I dont mind if I dont go out for dinner,and I prefer to have my dinner at home because i am in a stage of my lif that need to save money. If he wants me to go for dinner with him he has to pay!

By: yuuka

yuuka — Wed, 29 Dec 2010 10:49:50 +0000

No self-respecting husband or boyfriend in America would stand idly by while his companion pays the bill at the register. That is the man’s duty. Only if he has been invited by the woman should he allow her to pay the bill.

By: La BellaDonna

La BellaDonna — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 21:17:50 +0000

UGH. I am HORRIFIED by that woman's choice and that judge's decision. I think it's totally wrong.

That said, I found myself in the position (a pink-collar position, at that) of supporting my husband, who was too lazy to get a full-time job. No, it didn't start OUT that way – I'm actually smart enough to turn down an arrangement like that! – but I just wound up shoulder more and more of everything as he shouldered less. He is no longer my problem, however.

By: Leana

Leana — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 18:26:23 +0000

All this 50/50 behaving like room mates is fine in the beginning, and all the way through if you remain childless. But, too many times the relationship starts out this way, and then they decide they want kids. The wife is then left with two choices if the husband is rigid and won't change the rules. She can continue to pay her 50%, and pay someone else to raise the child. Or she can raise her own child, but have conflict in the marriage, and also be penniless to take care of her own needs (which is why many young mothers look like crap with no money for hair care or clothes).
There are stages in life, that need adjustments in thinking. It's so sad to see young mothers who cannot spend the time with their children that both the mother and child desperately need, because of some financial agreement she made before kids.
It's okay for one parent to be the breadwinner when the kids are young. When the kids are gone, they can go back to their pre-child arrangement.

By: FB @ FabulouslyBroke.com

FB @ FabulouslyBroke.com — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 18:06:17 +0000

But why would the woman have to pay 100% of the childcare costs?

It’s 50/50. If the woman doesn’t work, then it’s another situation, but if she works full time, I don’t see what the problem is with her footing half the bill for HER KIDS.

And please don’t presume to judge that we’re “behaving like roommates in the beginning is fine until we have kids”

I am taking a personal offense to that.

By: Leana

Leana — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 17:41:26 +0000

I think you've managed to find the most mature way to deal with the situation! Good Job!

By: Leana

Leana — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 17:36:47 +0000

It has happened. Look at the cases of Joan somebody who used to do "Good Morning America", and Joan somebody who is an actress and did the show about an 18th century women doctor. (Sorry I can't remember their last names). They both ended up having to support professional men who were completely capable of supporting themselves, and still raise the kids by themselves!
I've had friends who raised their little ones with NO child support coming in from the dad. Then in the teen years the kids went to live with the dad (no rules in his house), and the dads took the moms to court and received good child support. No consideration was given for all the years the moms raised the kids by themselves.
It's not always black & white. And, it's not always men paying for everything. Although a popular thing to do these days, we really cannot generalize on that.

By: jason johnson

jason johnson — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 16:32:01 +0000

We don't know all the facts. there is always the appeal process.

By: Jace

Jace — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 16:18:24 +0000

How about letting the children foot the bill. This woman used her kid's identity on top of her using other people's identities. The kid has judgments against her starting when she was 12 when dear old mom put utility bills in her name continuing on till last year. A 12 year old with bad credit and judgments against her which the State court finds acceptable along with the other identity theft the mother has committed. Little known fact if you have custody you can get away with ruining your children's credit. sheriff's report on id theft of child: http://southdakotagov.wordpress.com/2009/11/20/fe...

By: Osiris

Osiris — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 15:56:17 +0000

All I'm sayin is don't be surprised when someone pays your way & then treats you like you're an object; bought & paid for.