Comments on: The Paradoxes of Money & Women

By: sophie zhao

sophie zhao — Sat, 13 Aug 2011 15:12:00 +0000

I love money. And I love your blog.

By: Andy

Andy — Thu, 07 Jul 2011 21:22:00 +0000

good article ! I totally get it and agree.

By: Shelley

Shelley — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 15:30:38 +0000

My mom and her mom and her mom were all 'stay at home' mothers, but who were abandoned or divorced or married to financial idiots (my dad, bless him) and so were all forced to find entrepreneurial ways to support themselves and their children. The message I got growing up was 'Keep yourself looking good, you want to have a man; but, know how to take care of yourself financially, don't ever become dependent.' I like money for the freedom and choices it gives me, but I'm not hooked on big houses, new cars or designer clothes, so I don't resent that I like money. You are right, these people in these stories are complete idiots, and I doubt there is a cure for it. Sadly.

By: Foxie

Foxie — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 03:14:26 +0000

Y’know, I am SO sick of feeling weirdly guilty for making, spending and enjoying money. It’s grating on my last nerves…. Isn’t it meant to be enjoyed? Don’t we make it so that we can do the things we’d like? So why does everyone have to go after the people who manage to do just that?!

And then there’s the envy of others with your success, or just perceived success. I don’t consider myself successful yet, but I already have to deal with the jealousy BS… It’s only going to get worse from here on out, I’m afraid. I’m bound and determined to live my life on my terms, society’s expectations be damned.
.-= Foxie´s last blog ..My new-found car obsession. =-.

By: Kin

Kin — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 23:03:26 +0000

Hey, you stopped the post too soon Why do we resent our love for money? Mostly because we think too much money will make us a bit evil, or make us feel guilty to have ” so much”. Why do we not want to be associated with evil? Because we desire to be “just good” people… yet, such want is just as much part of our egotistical nature as the desire to not be evil. Tada!

So paradoxical. Seems there’s nothing we can do. Yep yep. but if we look at your observations again with such presumption, we are really playing games with ourselves. Creating rules, bending rules, breaking rules… keeps on repeating. Perhaps, it is a good idea for us to just learn to enjoy the game.

By: Revanche

Revanche — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 22:23:15 +0000

So how dysfunctional is MY family that we all assumed and joked that I’d be the successful, rich one, and that my brother would barely be able to support himself much less take on the responsibility for my parents?

I mean it was funny when I was ten and lording it over my brother because it felt like the family was on my side and I wasn’t the inferior one for once, but I never realized that there was any basis to the jokes. I just thought we were being mean to him because we could. It’s not that funny now ….

But then again, I have no fear in admitting that I love taking care of money and love standing on my own two feet and being known for it. So there’s a plus to that whole thing.
.-= Revanche´s last blog ..The power of a timeshare, and to luau or not to luau? =-.

By: Chelsea Talks Smack

Chelsea Talks Smack — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 22:04:21 +0000

oooooooh this post- GAAAAAH. I am so feeling this post in my life right now.

By: Meg

Meg — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 15:00:15 +0000

How about that we’re expected to be caregivers for everyone whether it’s kids, sick parents, etc. If someone’s sick, we rush home from work. If someone needs daily care, we quit work. And we’re told this makes sense not just because we’re women and women are supposed to be better caregivers by nature, but because it makes financial sense. After all, we make less on average then the men. So why shouldn’t we be the ones to sacrifice our careers — even though one reason given for women making less is that companies don’t expect women to stick around for long and make their career their priority. How’s that for circular logic!

But despite that we tend to have smaller incomes and more dependents, where do people go when they need money? Do they bug dad? Grandpa? Their guy pals? No, they go to the women in their life who just can’t ever seem to say no. After all, saying “no” isn’t lady like. *rolls eyes* In fact, if you say “no”, there’s a special word for that — and it isn’t assertive (that’s the guys’ word).

By: Make Do Style

Make Do Style — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 12:30:05 +0000

It’s a tough one mixed messages, although I’ve always been financially independent I’m rubbish at living within my means – although I’ve improved over the last two years with application and drawing upon blogs!
.-= Make Do Style´s last blog ..Creativity =-.

By: FB @ FabulouslyBroke.com

FB @ FabulouslyBroke.com — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 12:15:47 +0000

@frugalscholar: Then I think you are definitely one of the lucky ones. My parents just didn't give me ANY formal money education (but my siblings never got that either)... I think that men are under a lot of pressure these days, but women can earn as much, if not more, than men. We just need to get over that mindset that we can't do it, and just.. DO IT!