Totally my opinion all over this post but I am not surprised that guys have (or do) go to strip clubs, but I definitely don’t approve of them if they have wives or girlfriends…
Sure, they may go when they are single, fine, whatever (I still find it a bit disgusting)… but once they get a girlfriend or a wife, I am of the opinion that they should stop the behaviour because it’s not real.
Not real in the sense that those women up there are dancing naked for money which is totally cool for them, since they’re fleecing you suckers!
But you’ve got a woman, ready to be naked for you at home! And she’s not doing it for the money (well, not directly anyway, there are some women who are financial parasites)….
Anyway, imagine this: you get home alone, turned on, and look at your wife or girlfriend who may not be what you lust after (we’re talking unrealistic bodies here, with pumped up breasts, and women who dance all day for money so are in fantastic shape), and you feel disappointed.
That’s sad. Very, very sad to think about actually.
To feel DISAPPOINTED when you look at your woman when you get home.
Men may not feel disappointed to what I’m imagining, but they’ll sure feel something negative, since going to a strip club must have SOME negative effect – including unrealistic expectations of what a woman’s body should look like (trim, flat stomachs, inflated boobs, super tight muscles… please. Who has time and money for that if it isn’t your job?)
Worse, is if you have children and you frequent strip clubs.
It’s just me. But I don’t like the idea of guys looking at porn alone, going to strip clubs with the guys… I’m sure it may seem natural to a lot of women and a few of you are like: FB, shut up! It’s totally liberating! I even go with my man sometimes!
But I just can’t be that kind of girl.
I even find it a disgusting to the point where if he were to go out with the guys and then go to a strip club, I wouldn’t want to know about it (ignorance is bliss), and/or I wouldn’t want to have sex with him for at least 2 weeks.
My body would just reject him.
Man, I sound like a freak now! But it’s totally psychological and what I feel that I’d go through mentally.
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LeMeow
on Jan 4th, 2010
@ 10:46 PM:
I'm all for ignorance is bliss, with stripclubs and with porn. I think my bf can watch whatever he likes (porn wise) and go to strip clubs but yeah I'd rather not know about it. Just makes me feel uncomfortable. I tried to be the "cool girlfriend" and be okay with it when we went to a friend's bday party (a stripper came to the house as a strip-o-gram) and she basically grinded up against me (because "cool girlfriend" me was trying to act like I'm not a prude and said it was okay for her to do so) but I ended up getting very embarrassed, red-faced, and extremely uncomfortable. So yeah, NOT into it. And that's okay! I don't have to be the "cool girlfriend" or the girl who pretends to be into other girls or the girl who's okay with getting lap dances from strippers. I can live without it. I'm okay with people thinking I'm a prude if that's the case!
Michele
on Jun 23rd, 2010
@ 9:43 PM:
I’m not sure if ignorance is bliss because all skeletons find their way out of the closet sooner or later. I have been married to a man that has been frequenting strip clubs for 17 years. In the beginning of our marriage it was just something that happened maybe 2 or 3 times a year, to the best of my knowledge. When I would find out about these “excursions” I would, as the last commenter said, try to be the “cool” wife and not make too big a deal of of it, but I would make it clear that I felt uncomfortable with the whole idea of my husband going to a strip club. Well as the years went by and the kids came along, my husband continued to frequent strip clubs more and more often, and I abandoned the “cool” wife routine and just became the wife who suffered in silence. On the rare occasions when I would confront my husband about his strip club visits he would either lie to my face or tell me he was not doing anything wrong & that this was my problem not his. My self esteem became nonexistent, our relationship deteriorated to the point where we rarely communicated at all except about the kids. He took over complete control of our finances behind my back, so I had no idea how much money he was spending. All that mattered to him was his strip clubs. After years of trying to make it work, 3 months ago, I finally had enough, I sat him down after one of his late nights out and told him I was done. I wanted a divorce. He couldn’t believe it, he cried and begged me not to leave. He confessed that he has been going to these clubs twice a week, dropping a few hundred bucks each visit, for as long as he could remember. The lies, the betrayal, our marriage is destroyed. Is it cheating? Who cares. Anyone who says there’s nothing wrong with married men going to strip clubs is wrong. My husband spend thousands of our families money, he lied, he broke our trust, he destroyed our marriage. Maybe he is an extreme case, but do you want to take a chance with your husband, your marriage?