Comments on: Fake it until you can make it http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2009/03/fake-it-until-you-can-make-it/ Just a Girl trying to find a balance between being a Shopaholic and a Saver Sun, 12 Feb 2012 21:24:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Dione http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2009/03/fake-it-until-you-can-make-it/comment-page-1/#comment-76344 Dione Fri, 22 Jul 2011 20:21:00 +0000 http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2009/03/21/fake-it-until-you-can-make-it/#comment-76344 wow i really love this post!! It is so raw and true and kinda is everything i am going through right now. It just penned my thoughts in words.Can i ask you when did you "butterfly" like when did you wearing contacts,date, etc? :) wow i really love this post!! It is so raw and true and kinda is everything i am going through right now. It just penned my thoughts in words.Can i ask you when did you “butterfly” like when did you wearing contacts,date, etc? :)

]]> By: FabulouslyBroke.com http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2009/03/fake-it-until-you-can-make-it/comment-page-1/#comment-66853 FabulouslyBroke.com Sun, 14 Nov 2010 11:41:58 +0000 http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2009/03/21/fake-it-until-you-can-make-it/#comment-66853 As long as you are at where you want to be now, I say it was all worth it. You should definitely get a blog, but I\'d miss your super long comments!!!!! As long as you are at where you want to be now, I say it was all worth it.

You should definitely get a blog, but I\’d miss your super long comments!!!!!

]]> By: Jaime http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2009/03/fake-it-until-you-can-make-it/comment-page-1/#comment-66657 Jaime Sat, 13 Nov 2010 07:49:39 +0000 http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2009/03/21/fake-it-until-you-can-make-it/#comment-66657 wow I had a similar childhood. I was tortured throughout most of my childhood. It didn't help that we moved a lot. High school was like prison, I hated it, kids were cruel to me. After graduation I didn't stay in contact with anyone and I refuse to go to any reunions. I learned life's big lesson: Looks are everything, its the outside that matters. People try to deny that but its something that I've lived through. Yep I had the braces, glasses and weight. So I decided to do a makeover after high school, my mom agreed to pay for everything. She paid for LASIK, veneers after braces were off, and a nose job (it wasn't that dramatic, I went to 3 different doctors and I found one who had good ethics and was the best in the area). I also had my name legally changed to something more glamorous and less ethnic, the judge was very kind after I told him why I wanted it changed. I saved up about $1,500 or so and then moved out of state and started over. Soon after this my parents sold their house and bought a new house in a retirement community, so when I go back I don't have to see anyone from high school. btw I too met my bf online, he knows what I looked like previously, he understood why I had my makeover because he hated high school too, and no he didn't go to his reunion either. I still have about 30 lbs I want to shake off but lets just say life is peaceful now. I don't have to worry about being tortured because of my looks anymore. I don't encounter anyone from the past in Nebraska. I feel more comfortable talking to people and making friends. If I become good friends with someone I usually tell them about what I did. A lot of people tell me "you look so young for your age" or "oh my god, you look like my friend ___ ." One time I got "you look a little like Selena Gomez.." Now that I'm 27 I know looks aren't everything but they're a huge part of life and that at times makes me sad, I judge people less because I know what its like to be judged for your looks. Some people go to extremes with makeovers like Heidi Montag, but I never went that far. Its definitely important to know when to stop. Personally I feel great, I don't feel ugly anymore, but I think moving had the biggest effect in my life. I don't know what it is about moving but it was a huge clean slate in my life and I needed that. Anyway please don't feel sorry for me, I just wanted to share my story. I know some people think its a little sad or extreme or both, but its part of my journey. Though I don't think its that extreme compared to some other people.I really do think part of it is knowing when to stop. But you know the funny thing is I'm still the same girl and its really interesting how people treat me now than from previously. Its a total 180. Sometimes I find human nature frustrating, because I'm still the same person, I have the same thoughts about life that I did back then. I also find it frustrating when famous people put on fat suits and walk around "fat" for a day. What a joke. Anyway thanks for letting me vent again, I really should get a blog eh? ;) wow I had a similar childhood. I was tortured throughout most of my childhood. It didn't help that we moved a lot. High school was like prison, I hated it, kids were cruel to me. After graduation I didn't stay in contact with anyone and I refuse to go to any reunions. I learned life's big lesson: Looks are everything, its the outside that matters. People try to deny that but its something that I've lived through.

Yep I had the braces, glasses and weight. So I decided to do a makeover after high school, my mom agreed to pay for everything. She paid for LASIK, veneers after braces were off, and a nose job (it wasn't that dramatic, I went to 3 different doctors and I found one who had good ethics and was the best in the area). I also had my name legally changed to something more glamorous and less ethnic, the judge was very kind after I told him why I wanted it changed. I saved up about $1,500 or so and then moved out of state and started over.

Soon after this my parents sold their house and bought a new house in a retirement community, so when I go back I don't have to see anyone from high school. btw I too met my bf online, he knows what I looked like previously, he understood why I had my makeover because he hated high school too, and no he didn't go to his reunion either. I still have about 30 lbs I want to shake off but lets just say life is peaceful now.

I don't have to worry about being tortured because of my looks anymore. I don't encounter anyone from the past in Nebraska. I feel more comfortable talking to people and making friends. If I become good friends with someone I usually tell them about what I did. A lot of people tell me "you look so young for your age" or "oh my god, you look like my friend ___ ." One time I got "you look a little like Selena Gomez.."

Now that I'm 27 I know looks aren't everything but they're a huge part of life and that at times makes me sad, I judge people less because I know what its like to be judged for your looks. Some people go to extremes with makeovers like Heidi Montag, but I never went that far. Its definitely important to know when to stop. Personally I feel great, I don't feel ugly anymore, but I think moving had the biggest effect in my life.

I don't know what it is about moving but it was a huge clean slate in my life and I needed that. Anyway please don't feel sorry for me, I just wanted to share my story. I know some people think its a little sad or extreme or both, but its part of my journey. Though I don't think its that extreme compared to some other people.I really do think part of it is knowing when to stop.

But you know the funny thing is I'm still the same girl and its really interesting how people treat me now than from previously. Its a total 180. Sometimes I find human nature frustrating, because I'm still the same person, I have the same thoughts about life that I did back then. I also find it frustrating when famous people put on fat suits and walk around "fat" for a day. What a joke.

Anyway thanks for letting me vent again, I really should get a blog eh? ;)

]]> By: Frugal Fundamentals http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2009/03/fake-it-until-you-can-make-it/comment-page-1/#comment-24884 Frugal Fundamentals Mon, 23 Mar 2009 17:30:00 +0000 http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2009/03/21/fake-it-until-you-can-make-it/#comment-24884 I love your blogs because you tell it like it is. You remind me of me. I am a little on the extra smart side and that intimidates some people. I am just learning to be true to myself and I know things will work out. After just getting out of a LTR, I need a little kick to get out and dating again. Thanks for the fab post! You inspire me! I love your blogs because you tell it like it is. You remind me of me. I am a little on the extra smart side and that intimidates some people. I am just learning to be true to myself and I know things will work out. After just getting out of a LTR, I need a little kick to get out and dating again. Thanks for the fab post! You inspire me!

]]> By: Cents in the City http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2009/03/fake-it-until-you-can-make-it/comment-page-1/#comment-24875 Cents in the City Mon, 23 Mar 2009 15:40:00 +0000 http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2009/03/21/fake-it-until-you-can-make-it/#comment-24875 I completely understand where you are coming from. I was extremely awkward until about my freshman year of high school when it all started to come together. I had huge glasses, braces, and frizzy hair. I was skinny to the point of looking anorexic and often got teased for it. School nurses even joked about my weight during a field hockey physical. I bloomed the summer before high school and went from having no bust to more than most. Even then, I got teased I that I was stuffing. It took some time to experiment with makeup to cover my acne and learned how to do my hair. I never dated guys from my school. We had grown up together, and they all knew the awkward me. (Since graduating HS I have found out that quite a few had a crush on me.) <br/><br/>It wasn't until years later, when I moved to NYC that I really gained self confidence. I put myself out in a lot of strange situations in order to make new friends and form my life here. It's still hard going into a group when I don't know anyone. I plaster a smile on my face, pretend to be comfortable and eventually I meet new people. I’m always happy that I did it afterwards, so it makes the initial self-conscious feeling worth it. Some people say it's hard to meet people here. I’ve found it's incredibly easy if you put yourself out there, but I guess not many people are willing to do that. I completely understand where you are coming from. I was extremely awkward until about my freshman year of high school when it all started to come together. I had huge glasses, braces, and frizzy hair. I was skinny to the point of looking anorexic and often got teased for it. School nurses even joked about my weight during a field hockey physical. I bloomed the summer before high school and went from having no bust to more than most. Even then, I got teased I that I was stuffing. It took some time to experiment with makeup to cover my acne and learned how to do my hair. I never dated guys from my school. We had grown up together, and they all knew the awkward me. (Since graduating HS I have found out that quite a few had a crush on me.)

It wasn’t until years later, when I moved to NYC that I really gained self confidence. I put myself out in a lot of strange situations in order to make new friends and form my life here. It’s still hard going into a group when I don’t know anyone. I plaster a smile on my face, pretend to be comfortable and eventually I meet new people. I’m always happy that I did it afterwards, so it makes the initial self-conscious feeling worth it. Some people say it’s hard to meet people here. I’ve found it’s incredibly easy if you put yourself out there, but I guess not many people are willing to do that.

]]> By: Sara http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2009/03/fake-it-until-you-can-make-it/comment-page-1/#comment-24868 Sara Mon, 23 Mar 2009 03:01:00 +0000 http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2009/03/21/fake-it-until-you-can-make-it/#comment-24868 You weren't the only one! And I agree, give yourself some credit. You have developed skills and abilities through your "faking it" since you have been PRACTICING. You weren’t the only one! And I agree, give yourself some credit. You have developed skills and abilities through your “faking it” since you have been PRACTICING.

]]> By: Revanche http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2009/03/fake-it-until-you-can-make-it/comment-page-1/#comment-24864 Revanche Sun, 22 Mar 2009 21:51:00 +0000 http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2009/03/21/fake-it-until-you-can-make-it/#comment-24864 Too too right. I've been doing this a lot, when interviewing and interacting with people professionally. It's not natural, yet, though, so lots of times I just end up feeling drained after a few hours of being animated and faking interest in larger groups. <br/><br/>I worry that I'll have zero energy to do this as I approach the peak years of my career, but, as usual, you set the bar to strive for! I WILL make it, dangit! :) Too too right. I’ve been doing this a lot, when interviewing and interacting with people professionally. It’s not natural, yet, though, so lots of times I just end up feeling drained after a few hours of being animated and faking interest in larger groups.

I worry that I’ll have zero energy to do this as I approach the peak years of my career, but, as usual, you set the bar to strive for! I WILL make it, dangit! :)

]]> By: frugal zeitgeist http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2009/03/fake-it-until-you-can-make-it/comment-page-1/#comment-24863 frugal zeitgeist Sun, 22 Mar 2009 19:13:00 +0000 http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2009/03/21/fake-it-until-you-can-make-it/#comment-24863 Heck no, you're not alone. I was a freak with straight A's, a pudgy physique, and a major speech defect (now corrected) all through grade school. I started learning how to fake it in junior high simply as a survival skill. The weird part is that over the next twenty-five years or so, I <i>became</i> the person I was presenting to the world. <br/><br/>Hot diggety damn. How do you like them apples? Heck no, you’re not alone. I was a freak with straight A’s, a pudgy physique, and a major speech defect (now corrected) all through grade school. I started learning how to fake it in junior high simply as a survival skill. The weird part is that over the next twenty-five years or so, I became the person I was presenting to the world.

Hot diggety damn. How do you like them apples?

]]> By: suzie wuzie http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2009/03/fake-it-until-you-can-make-it/comment-page-1/#comment-24858 suzie wuzie Sun, 22 Mar 2009 13:20:00 +0000 http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2009/03/21/fake-it-until-you-can-make-it/#comment-24858 i am bookmarking that entry. it's come at a right time for me because i don't want to be that wallflower anymore or the 'shy asian girl'. i do say um alot too.. i have to change that.. good post :) i am bookmarking that entry. it’s come at a right time for me because i don’t want to be that wallflower anymore or the ‘shy asian girl’. i do say um alot too.. i have to change that.. good post :)

]]> By: Fabulously Broke http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2009/03/fake-it-until-you-can-make-it/comment-page-1/#comment-24853 Fabulously Broke Sun, 22 Mar 2009 00:44:00 +0000 http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2009/03/21/fake-it-until-you-can-make-it/#comment-24853 Thanks to everyone for such sweet comments. I suppose it's true -- we all felt left out at one point or another.<br/><br/>And it's even worse when you realize LATER that you spent ALL of this time being someone you weren't, when in fact, people wanted you to just be yourself.<br/><br/>Who knew? :)<br/><br/>Foxella: Oh honey, thank you but.. I AM charismatic and comfortable most of the time now :)<br/><br/>That's where the "until you make it" part comes in. *shrug* I'm totally fine with where I am now, a bit shy, but with enough brass to bust out a bluster just to overcome the initial fear.<br/><br/>I have a lot of confidence, but I don't want to get to the point where I have TOO Much and it turns into arrogance. Thanks to everyone for such sweet comments. I suppose it’s true — we all felt left out at one point or another.

And it’s even worse when you realize LATER that you spent ALL of this time being someone you weren’t, when in fact, people wanted you to just be yourself.

Who knew? :)

Foxella: Oh honey, thank you but.. I AM charismatic and comfortable most of the time now :)

That’s where the “until you make it” part comes in. *shrug* I’m totally fine with where I am now, a bit shy, but with enough brass to bust out a bluster just to overcome the initial fear.

I have a lot of confidence, but I don’t want to get to the point where I have TOO Much and it turns into arrogance.

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