Comments on: The Dating Age Gap

By: Mary

Mary — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 00:26:00 +0000

I have always been attracted to and dated men who were significantly older than I am (10 years or more). The older I get though, the older they are getting and, for the first time in my life, I’m starting to look at men much closer to my own age. If that trend continues, in a few more years, I’ll be dating younger men!

By: Foxella

Foxella — Sat, 21 Mar 2009 00:33:00 +0000

I have a lil problem with the age thing. I can’t date a guy even if he is a day younger than I am. Just can’t do it. A friend of mine pointed out one thing: “It’s because I have a younger brother. And it is common” Any ideas? Thoughts?

By: Living Almost Large

Living Almost Large — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 21:21:00 +0000

Question to everyone dating or married with a 10 year gap. How did you reconcile the child issue? Did you have children? Were you married previously with kids both of you and not wanting kids?

By: SavingDiva

SavingDiva — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 15:14:00 +0000

I don’t really have an upper age limit, but I do have a lower age limit! When I was working I wouldn’t date a guy under 25…mainly for maturity reasons…

I actually went on a few dates with a guy that was 41…not a big deal.

By: Sunflowers

Sunflowers — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 06:59:00 +0000

I'm a bit weird this way, but… I feel a bit of revulsion when I think about myself dating an older man.

I definitely pass no judgment on others with older significant others… it's just a personal peculiarity. I'm not sure where it stems from. (and I'm sure if the man was really lovely, I could overlook the age difference. I think?)

In general, I prefer men who are my age or younger. I like to have them under my heel a bit. <.< That sounds terrible… But I have fun playing the "older, wiser" card.

By: Mama Bear

Mama Bear — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 04:56:00 +0000

My husband and I are 5 years apart, he’s older. I’ve always liked older guys!

The oldest man I ever dated was 14 or so years older than me…but you’d never know it from meeting him. Turns out he was totally psycho so I’m glad that didn’t pan out.

By: Anny

Anny — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 04:52:00 +0000

Its about mental maturity. 16 and 20 are on entirely different levels – but you’re right about that gap expanding as you get older. I’m 30 but can’t fathom dating someone who’s 60 (older than my dad!) but I imagine 45 without issue. Maybe my rule is “as long as they aren’t in the same decade as dad”

My current boyfriend is five years younger (first time I dated someone that much younger) and we do ocassionally have culture clashes but otherwise its been a non-issue.

By: Rags2Riches

Rags2Riches — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 02:55:00 +0000

I agree that the older you get, the less important age is.

I always said I'd never date anybody younger than me & here I am with a bf who is two years younger. Not a big deal but still made me eat my words.

By: Laura

Laura — Fri, 20 Mar 2009 02:16:00 +0000

Well I’m 25 and my husband is 26 but if I was dating I wouldnt date a guy more than 5 years older than me.
So I wouldnt date a guy in his 30s. I just think you should find someone your own age, there’s enough single older women who need to meet men their age – why take one out of the dating pool? When youre young you have so many more to choose from!

By: Rylee's Auntie

Rylee's Auntie — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 23:11:00 +0000

Great post and awesome comments!

I have dated older and younger. Though not at all intentional, I have only dated younger guys (getting progressively younger!) for the last 20 years. When my last BF and I broke up (he was 14 years younger) I decided that 5 years either way was my limit. I am at a point in my life where I want to be able to say “Hey, remember when we were kids…..” and have the guy be able to relate. I just wanted someone who has shared similar life experiences, not someone who was still watching Sesame Street when I was out at the clubs. Been there, done that…

My current BF is 5 years younger, in case anyone is wondering