I read somwhere that women who marry for money earn every penny, and from what I've observed that is true. I was the primary breadwinner in this household for the first 12 years. Now I'm retired and he is. I still own the house, he's paying to fix it up a little – his idea. I love having a more or less equal partnership. Having experienced that I'd never settle for less.

Oh well to each his own. I think I made a mistake. Doesn’t mean that I can’t do something I want to do. Okay yes, maybe I should do what I went to school for. But most people I know aren’t doing what hey went to school for!

Case in point. I am reading this book for work called “The Magic of Thinking Big.” In one of the chapters the author talks about a news reporter that was covering the story of a serial killer/rapist in the mid-northwest area. This man had two son’s, whom he saw maybe once or twice over the years he spent in jail. One grew up to be on the fast track of joining his father in prison. He’d already been arrested for grand theft and was facing charges of murder. The other son grew up to be a prominent member of the community, a pastor at the local church, and donated his time and energy to helping orphaned children find good homes. Intrigued by the differences, the reporter interview both sons and the big question of the interview was why they turned out the way they did. To the reporter’s surprise, the brother’s answered the exact same way, “Well look at my father, how could I not turn out this way.” The difference between the brothers was that one used their father’s behavior as an excuse for his own, while the other used it as the example of how he didn’t want to be. He overcame the values taught in his family and chose a different path. So my point is this, familial values are not absolute.

This same argument is why I disagreed with Megan from the get-go of her explanation. She was “raised” to believe that she would never be a career woman. Ok, sure. But it was her choice to remain that way. She could have gone against the cuff there and said that she was going to make a career for herself before she settled down to depend on a man. But she chose to go the TW route. That’s her choice, but I don’t think it’s accurate to say that it was a result of her upbringing.

Kristy
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This man is now quite fed up with this (it's been over 10 years and he's paid for all of it) and complains constantly.

Being a "trophy wife" just seems like a miserable, insecure (financially & mentally), and lonely existence.

When Mr. comes home with a paycheck, it is OUR money. Like any good marriage, ours is a 50/50 partnership and we work together to achieve our goals. He can earn that money because I do all the housekeeping and he rarely has to lift a finger when he comes home.

Also, a college education is not just about getting a piece of paper to get a job. There’s a HELL of a lot more experience and general education going on and even though I plan to be a permanent housewife, I’m 100% happy to have earned a B.A. You simply CAN’T get that kind of education from reading a bunch of books.

-Frugal Urbanite

If not, what’s the point of going to school?

What’s the point?
That just….bothers me. Even if I never go to work (and believe me, I have working and a career in my blood, I’m just hypothetically saying this), I would never regret getting my college degree. It almost sounds elitst to tell others, “if you won’t use it, then don’t get it. I deserve it because I’ll use it, and since you’ll have a different lifestyle, don’t bother getting it.”

You learn so much more in college than if you just read. My BF hasn’t gone to college, and although he is very smart and self-studies, he sometimes acknowledges that there’s something different about the college experience. I don’t know if it’s discipline, or active learning, or getting feedback on your language, writing, and skills, but if anyone can afford it and work hard, it’s their choice to use it or not.