Comments on: An odd middle-class existence

By: FabulouslyBroke.com

FabulouslyBroke.com — Mon, 11 Oct 2010 23:22:40 +0000

Thank you. I love hearing that. I hope my blog helps you out — let me know if I can do anything (just contact me).

By: Carissa

Carissa — Mon, 11 Oct 2010 22:12:21 +0000

Thank you. Thank you for sharing. It gives me hope.

By: FB @ FabulouslyBroke.com

FB @ FabulouslyBroke.com — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 11:43:42 +0000

That’s true. My parents COULD have paid for my education. Also, if they had made better money choices and a whole bunch of other things.. I could have had my tuition paid for.

In the end, bygones are bygones. I’m just happy I turned out the way I did.

By: mes

mes — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 17:40:15 +0000

why not? different cultures have different expectations of their parents and kids. in my country, parents who can afford to do so, but DON'T pay for their kids' education are seen as slackers. parents who CAN'T because of financial difficulties are not seen in a bad light.

By: Slinky

Slinky — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 22:49:00 +0000

Unlike most people here, I totally sympathize with still being upset at your parents. Most people can’t comprehend that some things are hard to get over when it comes from your parents, sometimes it’s even unforgivable. I wrote a bit about my own upbringing inspired by Meg and LAL and all the others, but I tried really hard to leave out all the drama. It’s not completely relevant to the financial aspect and I just didn’t want to bring up bad feelings. One of the things I left out is that I don’t even talk to my dad anymore, so I completely sympathize with people not understanding. It’s hard to be at odds with your parents, and it can put siblings and other relatives in difficult positions too. It’s definitely better to just reconcile, but it’s really hard to do that when they don’t even acknowledge that they’ve done something wrong.

By: Fabulously Broke

Fabulously Broke — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 12:54:00 +0000

Everyone: It is kind of a fantastical story, but certainly no where as compelling as LAL's..

pk: It of course hit me emotionally, but.. *shrug* You deal with what you've got.

Rylee: It definitely has been a while before I could say it. I guess LAL opened the floodgate, LOL!

K-Money: People find it annoying that I still resent my parents but they lied. Plain and simple. As a kid what else am I supposed to believe?

Karen: Because they told me they would pay for it.

I understand your point, but you didn't read the story. They told me they had money saved aside all throughout my life and I expected some money from them.

If you're a kid and parents tell you that you can go to any university you want, any where, and they'll help pay for it.. YOU TEND TO BELIEVE IT.

By: Karen

Karen — Tue, 20 Jan 2009 00:38:00 +0000

Why would you expect your parents to pick up part of your tab for college? My parents had six kids, I’m the youngest and the one that benefited from the most disposable income (my closest sibling is 13 years older than me). Just like my brothes and sisters I paid for my own college. My parents paid nothing. I was raised to take care of myself – isn’t that what being a responsible adult is all about? (PS – $60,000 – tuition, room and board – didn’t buy my first car until I was 25 and no, i haven’t hit 40 yet)

By: Sense

Sense — Fri, 16 Jan 2009 09:00:00 +0000

Whoa! that’s a background worthy of a book! thank you for sharing, some of it sounds like it is still painful for you. Good for you for overcoming your parents’ mistakes.

my parents also reneged on their promise of tuition money, but for different, more understandable reasons than your own (illness). A small part of me is still bitter about it, though–a parent’s broken promise is hard to get over, no matter what the reason.

By: K-Money

K-Money — Fri, 16 Jan 2009 07:52:00 +0000

I totally understand resenting your parents for telling you they’d pay for college then not doing it. Mine did the same thing, “We didn’t really say we’d pay for college did we? I don’t remember that…”. I just needed a warning so I could prepare.

We are all influenced by how our parents handled money. The trick is not to go so far in the opposite direction that we end up just as dysfunctional but in a different way.

By: Rylee's Auntie

Rylee's Auntie — Fri, 16 Jan 2009 01:30:00 +0000

What a great biography! I might have to write a bit about my own upbringing now. My bf often asks me about my childhood, which was vastly different from his. My family had NO money, his family had gobs of it. We are an interesting pair….

I really love this post, it’s awesome when someone really digs deep and shares a story like this.