Does a treat = you pay?

Debt Hater finished $300 in the hole for eating out in her category because when her husband said that they were taking his best friend & wife out to dinner for their birthday, they didn’t discuss beforehand whether or not it was a treat (i.e. they foot the entire bill) or just a nice gesture.

Read the original post here.

For me, when I say to a friend: I’m taking you out to dinner for your birthday, they should assume that I’m treating. If not, the way to get around it is: Let’s go out to dinner to celebrate your birthday… but even then, it’s THEIR birthday and they shouldn’t have to pay (anyway, that’s my assumption) unless they invite me specifically saying: please come out to my birthday dinner.

How about if it wasn’t a birthday situation? Should you have to pay if you said “hey, let’s go to dinner“? In that situation, I don’t feel obligated to pay. It isn’t a special occasion that warrants a treat for any occasion, and it’s just an invite so you both don’t have to eat alone.

What do you think


About the Author

Just a girl trying to find a balance between being a Shopaholic and a Saver. I cleared $60,000 in 18 months earning $65,000 gross/year. Now I am self-employed, and you can read more about my story here, or visit my other blog: The Everyday Minimalist.