Comments on: Paying for the first date http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2007/08/paying-for-first-date/ Just a Girl trying to find a balance between being a Shopaholic and a Saver Sun, 12 Feb 2012 21:24:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Femita http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2007/08/paying-for-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-74660 Femita Tue, 15 Mar 2011 11:10:00 +0000 http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2007/08/11/paying-for-the-first-date/#comment-74660 It's just a matter of courtesy to me. A guy who is willing to pay shows me he is a gentleman and is willing to care for me. It has nothing to do with feminist bullshit. It’s just a matter of courtesy to me. A guy who is willing to pay shows me he is a gentleman and is willing to care for me. It has nothing to do with feminist bullshit.

]]> By: Fabulously Broke in the City http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2007/08/paying-for-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-14248 Fabulously Broke in the City Fri, 17 Aug 2007 20:58:00 +0000 http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2007/08/11/paying-for-the-first-date/#comment-14248 Well, Husband just sits around, futzes around on the computer, sleeps, (now we have a kitchen) so he's going to buy food together and cook meals for me (*heart*)... And works out, etc...<br/><br/>*shrug* As long as he lifts the heavy suitcases and does the manual labour that I couldn't on my own, he's worth triple his weight in gold :)<br/><br/>Well I think weddings are mostly for the family. It's sometimes not even for the bride and groom (for us, it was NOT.) I think we would've had a happier wedding (since we both agreed in hindsight) if we had eloped to Niagara Falls and got married there. We would've had the weekend together, and our honeymoon in one. *sigh*<br/><br/>If only I could do a do-over.<br/><br/>But you and BoyDucky have to agree on it!! (Is he going to be HusbandDucky from now on?) Well, Husband just sits around, futzes around on the computer, sleeps, (now we have a kitchen) so he’s going to buy food together and cook meals for me (*heart*)… And works out, etc…

*shrug* As long as he lifts the heavy suitcases and does the manual labour that I couldn’t on my own, he’s worth triple his weight in gold :)

Well I think weddings are mostly for the family. It’s sometimes not even for the bride and groom (for us, it was NOT.) I think we would’ve had a happier wedding (since we both agreed in hindsight) if we had eloped to Niagara Falls and got married there. We would’ve had the weekend together, and our honeymoon in one. *sigh*

If only I could do a do-over.

But you and BoyDucky have to agree on it!! (Is he going to be HusbandDucky from now on?)

]]> By: Ali http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2007/08/paying-for-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-14234 Ali Tue, 14 Aug 2007 15:53:00 +0000 http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2007/08/11/paying-for-the-first-date/#comment-14234 I'm so glad to see you and I share the same opinion. I wrote something about this too and it sparked a huge debate in our forums.<br/><br/>http://blog.chickadvisor.com/2007/07/check-mate-who-should-pay-for-first.html<br/><br/>I totally agree with everything you said. I’m so glad to see you and I share the same opinion. I wrote something about this too and it sparked a huge debate in our forums.

http://blog.chickadvisor.com/2007/07/check-mate-who-should-pay-for-first.html

I totally agree with everything you said.

]]> By: Fabulously Broke in the City http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2007/08/paying-for-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-14231 Fabulously Broke in the City Tue, 14 Aug 2007 15:34:00 +0000 http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2007/08/11/paying-for-the-first-date/#comment-14231 I think if you threw me into a dating situation right now, I'd be up the creek without a paddle...<br/><br/>As for the way he spends in the present, at least you're the saver!! Mine spends in the present (but also is very critical of expenses and is a pseudo-saver), and I'm starting to be more of a saver than a spender (v. v. hard to change)<br/><br/>After about a year of dating, we got into the point where we just combined expenses.... into joint chequing, then he slowly broke down my financial barrier and skittishness with constantly pestering me about joining our credit cards so it'd make it easier to pay bills.. yada, yada.. lol, now there's no account that doesn't have his name on it :P <br/><br/>He says his secret plan to slowly make himself permanently-retired is now in place.<br/><br/>Hope your wedding goes beautifully :) And that it's stress free :P I think if you threw me into a dating situation right now, I’d be up the creek without a paddle…

As for the way he spends in the present, at least you’re the saver!! Mine spends in the present (but also is very critical of expenses and is a pseudo-saver), and I’m starting to be more of a saver than a spender (v. v. hard to change)

After about a year of dating, we got into the point where we just combined expenses…. into joint chequing, then he slowly broke down my financial barrier and skittishness with constantly pestering me about joining our credit cards so it’d make it easier to pay bills.. yada, yada.. lol, now there’s no account that doesn’t have his name on it :P

He says his secret plan to slowly make himself permanently-retired is now in place.

Hope your wedding goes beautifully :) And that it’s stress free :P

]]> By: Fabulously Broke in the City http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2007/08/paying-for-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-14203 Fabulously Broke in the City Sun, 12 Aug 2007 16:12:00 +0000 http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2007/08/11/paying-for-the-first-date/#comment-14203 Our husbands are pretty great :) He was walking down the street the other day and burst out laughing. I asked him what was so funny, and he pointed to a couple across the street.<br/><br/>FB's Husband: "Look babe, he's carrying his suit jacket over his shoulder and munching on his apple, while his girlfriend/wife/whatever (they kissed), is carrying 4 heavy grocery bags. The LEAST he could do, buddy, is offer to carry at least 2 of the bags for her."<br/><br/>FB: "I think she's preggers too. That'd never happen with us, hon. :P" Our husbands are pretty great :) He was walking down the street the other day and burst out laughing. I asked him what was so funny, and he pointed to a couple across the street.

FB’s Husband: “Look babe, he’s carrying his suit jacket over his shoulder and munching on his apple, while his girlfriend/wife/whatever (they kissed), is carrying 4 heavy grocery bags. The LEAST he could do, buddy, is offer to carry at least 2 of the bags for her.”

FB: “I think she’s preggers too. That’d never happen with us, hon. :P ”

]]> By: Meg http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2007/08/paying-for-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-14202 Meg Sun, 12 Aug 2007 04:50:00 +0000 http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/2007/08/11/paying-for-the-first-date/#comment-14202 Also being married, this doesn't apply so much now, but I'd certainly be hesitant about a second date with a guy that didn't at least offer to pay (of course, I might off, too, but he better not let me pay the first time around). Further dates could be my treat, but that first date is his time to shine. Sure, it's a bit of a game, and a lot of it is cultural expectations, but my experience is that most guys know to pay the first date and if they don't that's a bad sign.<br/><br/>My husband also paid for pretty much everything. He currently pays the bills since I've been in schools through almost all of our relationship and now I'm starting out with part time work. I wouldn't mind supporting him, though, if our situations allowed. We have different credit cards so that we can buy each other gifts (even though it comes from the same place). And yes, he opens and holds doors for me. He carries heavy stuff, too, though I do like showing off with the groceries for some odd reason. <br/><br/>I'm really lucky to have him. I'm glad to hear that you have such a sweetie as well :) Also being married, this doesn’t apply so much now, but I’d certainly be hesitant about a second date with a guy that didn’t at least offer to pay (of course, I might off, too, but he better not let me pay the first time around). Further dates could be my treat, but that first date is his time to shine. Sure, it’s a bit of a game, and a lot of it is cultural expectations, but my experience is that most guys know to pay the first date and if they don’t that’s a bad sign.

My husband also paid for pretty much everything. He currently pays the bills since I’ve been in schools through almost all of our relationship and now I’m starting out with part time work. I wouldn’t mind supporting him, though, if our situations allowed. We have different credit cards so that we can buy each other gifts (even though it comes from the same place). And yes, he opens and holds doors for me. He carries heavy stuff, too, though I do like showing off with the groceries for some odd reason.

I’m really lucky to have him. I’m glad to hear that you have such a sweetie as well :)

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